Home is about family, more so than I had thought. It’s been a week so far and I’ve been all over my small city of 100,000 people, eating like a bear preparing for hibernation (stocking up on delicious southern food before I return to LA for 6 more months).
Eating wasn’t my only priority. Seeing family came next and friends followed close after. The reunions with my friends have been great! They involved wine and country clubs and botched chicken & dumplings and dinners and breakfasts and lunches and lots of laughs!!
Although, it wasn’t until I went to Oklahoma City yesterday that I realized something about my friends: Over my lifetime I have created four different families…of friends.
1. My Texas Friend Family: My Texas Friend Family has changed many times over the years–over 24 years. It went from many and today it’s only a few. They do something very important for me– they remind me who I am and where I came from. They humble me. They know my past and they live with me in the present. One even helps me figure out what I’m constantly searching for. : )
2. My Louisiana Friend Family: This was the first Friend Family that I created following high school. I left Texas for college in Louisiana and created a most diverse and worldly Friend Family. Although I don’t see or speak to many of them anymore, I recently caught up with a Friend Family Member and I realized what this Friend Family does for me. They inspire me to be better, to think, to be creative, but more importantly, they taught me how to have fun, how to let go, how to live life. They pushed me to start “searching” in life.
3. My Oklahoma Friend Family: I left Louisiana for Oklahoma for graduate school and over three years I created another family. This family helped me to discover who I was following the termination of a long-term relationship. I started to become me with them. I found my passion in writing and others to share it with. These friends helped me to find what I like and don’t like, taught me how to date, and they encouraged me to dream, and to believe in myself. They celebrated my new habits of “searching.”
4. My Los Angeles Friend Family: My most current Friend Family that I’ve created. They are a reflection of who I currently am and who I will be. We are all ambitious women with diverse interests. They encourage me to step above and beyond, to shoot past the stars to another galaxy, and they live life–actually live it with me! They push me to constantly and constantly search.
As I finished my last visit with my amazing friend Sayde in Oklahoma City, I almost began to cry. These families that I have created are just as important to me as my familial family. And in some ways, they do things that my (blood) family cannot do for me and for that I am so thankful for them.
It makes me sad that I can’t take the best of them with me to each new place I live. If I could, I’d selfishly kidnap them for my own emotional need and take them wherever I go.
But I know I don’t need to. Because they are within me. They’ve given me the qualities, the confidence, the support, and the love I need to live my life to the fullest.
So thank you Friend Families…for all you’ve done for me…like making me write my second blog post ; ) You’re so good to me.